Finding Arjay

An only child in a hardworking, isolating family headed by an intense, angry man, ArJay seldom saw or experienced expressions of acceptance or affection. Not surprisingly, he entered adulthood clueless, filled with fear and shame, desperately seeking a love he did not understand, could not recognize, and was unable to express. A poor candidate for marriage indeed. Finding ArJay describes the author's search-filled life leading to a series of poor relationship decisions, uncertain educational exp